Saturday, January 15, 2005

Ma'am's the word...

It used to be "Miss",


or even "Doctor Letti" most of the time back home, but now i'm a "ma'am".

However, that's the polite Southern way, and I am afraid I must had offended a bunch of people when I first got to Texas by not calling them "ma'am" or "sir" (only because it's not the Asian way, which by the way, calling someone "Auntie" might even be worse....) but do I look like a Ma'am to you!?!?


On the other hand, when i have children, i'd probably insist they called everyone a ma'am or a sir.

15 comments:

ashleymclure said...

I call everyone (well almost) ma'am or sir, even my kids. It's just a southern polite thing. :)

Clint said...

I grew up in Alabama, where it was polite to call people sir, or ma'am. Now that I live in Hawaii, and I'm old enough to make my own rules, everyone is "dude." Everyone.

Anonymous said...

In the south, manners still count. We call everyone sir, ma'am, miss or mister.

Pissy Britches said...

Yes girl, it is unfortunately one of those stupid southern things. I never called my parents maam or sir but you bet I make all these kids say it. It is torture to them. haha.

wickedlyperfect said...

I really dislike being called ma'am.. It's horrible and it makes me feel old.

I call everyone Mr. or mrs or sir because I know the age of most people. Now, these kidlets at Subway are calling me ma'am and I just want to reach across the counter, grab their knife that they refuse to clean when they make my sandwich and scream.. tehe but I won't because I'm nice and I say No ma'am, I don't want any lettuce...

Anonymous said...

Hi

I find Ma'am quite generalized.

Back here in Singapore, the maids (aged 40 & above) are calling my girlfirends (aged btwn 25 to 30) "MOM" *eek* Now tat is such an "insult" !!!! LOL!!!!!!!



Rgds
Agnes, Singapore
http://www.xanga.com/krazy_gal

PS: I "found" u via blog clicker ;)

letti said...

Ashley : I find myself calling people maam and sir now too!

Clint: So you're a surfer dude? :)

Stephanie: when we were young, our parents made us call people "uncle" and "auntie" instead of Sir and Maam..it's just the asian way, i think/

Wickedly Perfect: Ooo..i sooo know what you mean by the word "maam" aging me by at least 20 years.

Agnes: Ooo..Indonesian maids call people "ibu", i think..which means mom...is that what you meant? I tried to paste a comment on your site, but i am not xanga member..*sigh*

TR said...

Letti, don't make me cry. I've been called "Auntie" and "Makcik" by people even OLDER than me! Is that so depressing or what?

Trish Young-At-Heart
www.uber-mommy.net

spydrz said...

Ma'am is just a way of life...it's a sign of respect in the South, something that is lost in other areas of the country.

Kate said...

Ha ha...I think in Korea you call people you know really well uhnni or oppah (if they are an older female or male friend). I was always told that if I didn't know someone older than me, like my parent's age or grandparents age, I was to call them Mr. or Mrs. or Miss whatever until they said "You can call me (first name here)."
I think I'll cry the day I am called ma'am. :)

:: jozjozjoz :: said...

I hate being called ma'am, as well.

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Animesh said...

Count your blessings.
Maam is better than Auntie. Just like Sir is better than Uncle :)

Anonymous said...

Yes ma'am! So Southern. I find it funny though.

JANO
http://daghtus.chattablogs.com/

Mellie Helen said...

I didn't like hearing "Ma'am" when I first started getting addressed that way, but now I confess that I always appreciate the nod of respect. It's far less about whether it's "Miss" or "Ma'am"; if either appellation is directed to me, I feel good about my fellow human being's use of good manners, particularly if this comes from the mouth of a child.

Naturally, I prefer "Your Highness", but that just hasn't caught on for some reason.